The words count people!

Today one of my lovely patients told me that after 63 years of marriage  his wife had told him she loved him for the first time that morning!!! WOW. Now I don't know exactly how true that might be but it was either the best or worst thing today I just cant decide. 

I find that so peculiar. You could argue that she showed him every day for 63 years that she loved him by being his wife and all that the title entails but I think the words count. The look on that gentleman's face as he told his story prove that words matter. I have a personal philosophy of always saying what I think about someone... well the good stuff at least. I know it's pretty rare and people sometimes get a little weird about it but if I think something nice about you I'm going to tell you! 

Generally we need to get better at taking compliments. It's nothing for us to believe bad things that we hear about ourselves but when it comes to compliments and nice things we get uncomfortable and disregard the words. We think the person telling us something nice is just trying to be nice or to make us feel good or something. Well... DUH! Yes, of course but that doesn't mean they're lying or making things up. 

For Mr's birthday last week I decided to do a birthday week. I sent him 7 small gifts and 7 nice notes over 7 days. On each of those notes I wrote something about him that I like. Something great about his personality ( and person LOL) that makes me happy and which I want him to know. I put it right out there and gave very specific examples of the sorts of things he is and things he does that make him awesome. He's decided to wait and open all 7 packages when I see him next and I'm a bit worried that it's going to be a pretty intense couple of minutes. I almost decided not to go and to make him open them alone but then I realised that each of those 7 things is something true. Even when he's being annoying or when the small things seem big he IS all of those big and important things. I want him to know what I think about him, especially on his birthday so I guess if it's face to face then so be it :) 

I don't tend to go around giving people those sorts of compliments to people because that WOULD be weird but I'm never backwards in coming forwards and I've found that the more I do it the easier it becomes. I tell everybody nice things and you know what? they like it! If you just think something it's meaningless and nobody benefits soooooo spill it. Say what's on your mind but just don't make a big deal about it coz that CAN be a little creepy hahahahahaha

xo